Despite all my unvarnished revelations, there was still one truth I needed to accept.
“I didn’t want to be lied to!” But they only say it after the fact, when the cats out of the bag and they have to live with the consequences of the truth anyway."
What you said here is so true. It is always easier after the fact. I would lie to protect my parents as a child and was always know as the perfect child (my parents used to say I was born knowing how to feed, bath and teaching myself, never asking for help or causing trouble) striving for perfection in my childhood, and early adulthood left it's impact for sure.
I love your column because you are vulnerable and relatable ( and teaching me new things too) but truthfully I feel less alone in how I feel or what I have gone through.