This whole piece just screams to me! I always feel like a burden, like they’ll be annoyed, so I never initiate the text, I never initiate anything, I always wait till they do, they have to show me they are really interested before they walls come down, if not it goes absolutely no where, because I don’t want to be a burden. Also, I love where she speaks of waiting for the right one…
You are not a burden. The only burden you should focus on is un-burdening yourself from that belief. You are worth loving. One of the best pieces of advice I got when dating was that instead of asking myself does he like me, asking myself if I like him. The other person is auditioning, not you. But nobody can audition for a part they don’t know you’re casting — you’re not annoying, having wants and desires is not annoying. I know it makes you feel vulnerable and exposed, and I’m sorry, I know that can be so hard. Try if you can to make peace with appearing vulnerable. When I stopped being afraid of looking silly it neutered my fear and made me more courageous in my knowing that I was worthy of outrageous care.
This whole piece is so lovely and vulnerable and full of Capital-T, Truth, but I especially love the therapist as mission impossible acrobat.
thanks friend
This whole piece just screams to me! I always feel like a burden, like they’ll be annoyed, so I never initiate the text, I never initiate anything, I always wait till they do, they have to show me they are really interested before they walls come down, if not it goes absolutely no where, because I don’t want to be a burden. Also, I love where she speaks of waiting for the right one…
You are not a burden. The only burden you should focus on is un-burdening yourself from that belief. You are worth loving. One of the best pieces of advice I got when dating was that instead of asking myself does he like me, asking myself if I like him. The other person is auditioning, not you. But nobody can audition for a part they don’t know you’re casting — you’re not annoying, having wants and desires is not annoying. I know it makes you feel vulnerable and exposed, and I’m sorry, I know that can be so hard. Try if you can to make peace with appearing vulnerable. When I stopped being afraid of looking silly it neutered my fear and made me more courageous in my knowing that I was worthy of outrageous care.
Beautiful story but who edited this? It’s “my sister and *me*” not “my sister and I” (occurs multiple times)